Having trouble letting go


We ask our Facebook community to send us questions. Then we ask that same community to answer those questions... Yeah, well, why make work for ourselves?!

So the question is: 'My partner and I recently broke up. I’ve been having real troubles letting go – any advice on how to move on?'


  • Noel It takes time, leaving a loved one is probably one of the most painful, emotional experiences you can go though so you won’t just be able to let go the second the relationship ends, you gotta do the things that you wouldn't have normally done with a boyfriend/girlfriend so you aren't constantly reminded that 'Hey! I did this with that partner, you know the one that left you!' and eventually things will just go back to normal.
  • Philip There is no real way of 'letting go', it’s just something that happens after a given length of time and you can't exactly force it because you'll just remind yourself that you are doing this because of the break up.
  • Deb It takes time. It’s a grieving process. Usually only one party feels sad as the other person chose to end it. Don’t take it personally. But do not be their backstop. It will prolong the pain. 6 weeks you will be happy again.
  • Mathew I believe if you look for other things in life to be grateful for, your chances of moving on will be better. Friends, family, pets etc
  • Carla Give it time. Just keep living your life day by day and one day you'll realise you already have moved on  :)
  • Eloisa Eat, sleep, repeat.
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Now, often someone will feel a million bucks when a relationship ends – and that’s ok. But when a breakup is hurting the consensus seems to be: Get out there, try new things, and know that it will get easier with time

If you need more information on dealing with relationship breakups, visit Headspace.

If you’re still struggling with the way you feel and want some help, contact Kids Help Line (1800 551 800) or Lifeline (13 11 14).

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