You asked us, so we asked our The Line community.  

There were plenty of different responses, but there were definitely a few recurring themes… 

  • David: No. Though other commenters are right to say one shouldn't be ashamed of their own emotions, that doesn't necessarily mean the presence of a particular emotion in a relationship is healthy. 
  • Kitty: I think jealousy is a learned emotion and usually comes from a fear of loss. I don't believe that jealousy is healthy at all. One can envy someone, sure, but jealousy is often misrepresented as a sign of love... it isn't... its fear of loss, controlling behaviour and mistrust... none of which builds a healthy relationship 
  • Luke: Jealousy and envy can be in a lot of situations. Using them as justification for doing crappy things is what is unhealthy.  
  • Jordan: No, jealousy is a negative emotion. Acknowledge it, talk about it, then move on. This doesn't mean you can't learn things from jealousy.  
  • Nikki: I dont think it’s healthy but I do think its normal and natural. Whats healthy is talking and working through it. 
  • Patrick: Emotions can't be helped, they're part of why we're human. Acting on jealousy is what causes problems.

A common underlying theme here is that if jealousy does bubble up, that can be ok – it’s what you do with it that’s where it’s at: 

  • DON’T justify being a control freak by calling it jealousy 

  • DO recognise what your feels are doing, and talk to your partner in a way that aims to move beyond jealousy 

  • DO remember there are a helluva lot of much healthier ways you can show how much someone means than crossing the line into jealousy.