Ever asked someone to send you a nude? Ever got one? There's something you really need to know.
Maybe you asked for it, maybe you didn't.
Maybe it's from the person in the pic or maybe someone else forwarded it to you.
The question is, what are you going to do next?
Keep It Private: What’s Sent to You Stays With You
Thinking about sending someone else’s spicy pic/nude? Once it's out there, you can't take it back.
Once you have leaked a nude, the control is no longer with you - you don’t know what someone might do with them.
Screenshots last forever, and what you thought was a private thing between you and the group chat can easily turn into something bigger than you ever intended.
Respect the trust that comes with receiving something so private.
Think about it, if you sent your nude to somebody, would you want them to leak it for the world to see?
Just because you can share it doesn’t mean you should
If you receive a nude or sexual text from someone, do not show it to anyone else.
Sharing intimate images or videos of someone without their consent is image-based abuse and is a crime in some states, as in illegal.
There can be an exception to this rule where you didn’t ask for, or want to receive the image/sext, in which case it may be necessary to report the sender or seek help from a responsible adult.
Check out Youth Law Australia for details.
Take a second to put yourself in the shoes of the person who's in the picture (...yeah, even if they're not wearing any).
They gave you this image - and you need to assume it came with the words, 'this is totally just between you and me...'.
Even if you took it as a joke, it's still massively important to keep it private.
If you can't handle that responsibility, delete it.
Keeping Your Private Stuff Private
On top of the legal implications of having or forwarding a nude it's about being a decent human being.
Private photos and messages are private for a reason.
If you send or show a nude meant for you to somebody else, it's no longer private.
You're breaking the trust, and you're losing control of what happens to it.
- Before you start begging your crush to send you a nude, think about how that makes them feel—pressuring someone isn’t cool. Respect their boundaries.
- Before you decide it’s a good idea to share it with the group chat or show it to your mates, ask yourself 'would they be okay with this being shared?' It’s yours to look at, not yours to share with anybody else.
- If you were thinking about finding a pic of an ex because you reckon 'it's not a big deal' or decide 'they deserve it', just remember that leaking nudes is never ok, and probably illegal. Protect yourself. Protect others. Keep it private.
What you can do if somebody pressures you to leak a nude
You've been trusted with a nude, and it's your responsibility to keep it private.
If somebody is trying to get you to show or share it with them, you've got to be honest.
Just say no, tell them it's private, and even let them know that the fact they want to see it is a little creepy.
Suppose a stranger is asking to see it; get out of that situation as fast as you can.
Leave the conversation, walk away and block them forever.
And yeah, it's just the right thing to do, right?
