Are they interested in a relationship?

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Wondering if someone is interested in a relationship or just being friendly? You’re not the only one. We get asked questions like that a lot.

Just like this person who said, ‘My crush is really focused on her studies, and I’m not sure if she’s interested in a relationship with me, but she seems keen to talk to me when I start a conversation with her. I’m not sure what to do, any advice?’

When we asked our online community, this is what they had to say and what they though you could do about it.

Are they interested in a relationship with you?

  • Rayne They want a relationship but they also want an education. If you ask me they're just getting their priorities straight and in order.
  • Jack Just keep talking to her. If something is going to happen it will, maybe give her a hint that you like her?
  • April Ask her what she wants, don't just make the decision that you're not going to ask her out because you know she's focused on her studies - you need to cater to what she wants as well! But whatever she decides, respect it and she will like you a whole lot more for respecting her decision, whatever that may be :) 
  • Bianca Be blunt. Ask her. Or wait until her studies are over. If she's worth it your feelings for her won't go away.
  • Jason Study with her, but help her with her studies as well. She's really keen to pass her exams, I'm pretty sure, so once the stress on that is off, ask her out. ALSO, A VERY IMPORTANT NOTE: If she doesn't want to focus on being in a relationship and wants to focus on her education, respect her for that. There will still be a chance for you.
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Want to be sure they are interested in a relationship? Just Ask

There were heaps of different takes on this one, but one thing most people agreed on?

Be real and just ask.

Being open and honest about how you feel is way better than guessing or waiting around, hoping something will happen.

Just make sure to do it respectfully, even a simple ‘Hey, want to hang out together sometime?’ can be a great way to show you're interested.

And most importantly, respect their boundaries.

Liking someone doesn’t give you the right to push things, consent always comes first.

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