So, we reached out to our Facebook community and asked...
‘What do you wish your sex-ed classes had actually taught you?’
There were plenty of different responses, but there were definitely a few recurring themes…
“I wish they had dispelled the idea that boys only want sex!"
- Erin B.
“We should talk more about what sex is actually like instead of letting teens believe sex is like what they see in porn and other media…”
– Gareth M.
“The actual emotional consequences of sex for both boys and girls, and not simply telling girls “BOYS ARE JUST USING YOU!”
- Jaleesa M.
“It would be great if there was more emphasis on self pleasure!”
- Emma D.
“That sex is actually good and normal and there shouldn’t be any shame!”
- Imogen R.
“Recognise that not all relationships are heterosexual…”
– Missy R.
“The feelings surrounding sex (not just pleasure but the emotions felt before, during and afterwards)”
– Matthew P.
“...it’s not strange for a woman to not be able to have an orgasm”
– Bianca B.
“Consent, consent, consent!”
– Cain P.
“That first times are awkward af”
– James M.
“How to say no when pressured into having sex with your partner!”
“Boys you don’t need a hairless big schlong to get it on!”
– Sarah E.
“A heads up that sex realistically lasts for about 3 minutes would have been nice!”
– Sarah E.
It sounds like a lot of people thought there was too much focus on biology and theory – Sure, that stuff is good to know about, but there’s a whole lot more than that which people end up trying to 'learn on the job'.
Practical advice about what consent looks and sounds like, what makes a relationship healthy or unhealthy, LGBTIQ sex and sexual relationships, STI prevention and treatment, realistic 'sexpectations', self-pleasure... these are just a few things that seem to be missing in a lot of people’s sex-ed.
For more than your average sex-ed class might have offered back in the day, check out some of these excellent sites: