Watch and discuss...

As kids finish school, head off to uni and/or move out of home they will be exposed to new environments and new crowds. There are ideas and concepts it’s important young people understand as they gain independance. We’ve put together some clips to watch with kids in their later-teens or early-twenties, which can start good discussions and get them thinking more analytically about gender, sexuality and relationships.

“Locker room talk” – Says who? is a TED talk by Alexis Jones. Having spent the past three years working intimately with male athletes, Jones is redefining “manhood” one locker room at a time. After growing up a Texas tomboy with four older brothers and working in “the lion’s den of dudes” at Fox Sports and ESPN, Alexis takes an inspiring, hysterical and at times inappropriate approach to empowering young men to better respect and protect the girls and women in their lives with her exclusive locker room curriculum. 

 

A call to men is Tony Porter’s call to males everywhere: Don't "act like a man." Telling powerful stories from his own life at this TED talk, he shows how this mentality, drummed into so many men and boys, can lead men to disrespect, mistreat and abuse women and each other. His solution: Break free of the "man box." WARNING: Contains explicit, possibly triggering content: 

 

Sexual consent can be a confusing concept for people of any age! It’s essential our kids understand why sexual consent is so important and how to recognise. This video uses a very simple analogy about theft to explain how and why:

 
And this clip uses another great analogy to talk about getting or not getting consent: 

 

Miss-representation discusses the way media sells young people the idea that girls’ and women’s value lies in their youth, beauty, and sexuality and not in their capacity as leaders. Boys learn that their success is tied to dominance, power, and aggression. Suggesting we must value people as whole human beings, not gendered stereotypes this documentary has won dozens of awards. It's available to watch from a few different platforms, but even the 8-minute trailer here is really worth watching:

 

The Mask You Live In follows boys and young men as they struggle to stay true to themselves while negotiating America’s narrow definition of masculinity. The film's available on various platforms, but here is the 3-minute preview:

 

Audrie & Daisy takes a hard look at the issues faced by teenagers who are coming of age in the new world of social media bullying, spun wildly out of control. The full film is available on Netflix, but you can see the trailer here: 

 

UnSlut: A Documentary Film features the stories of girls and women who have experienced sexual shaming, including a Canadian teenager who, after being gang-raped and subsequently labelled a 'slut' by her classmates, took her own life. Watch the full film on the the film-maker's website. Here's the trailer:

 

And now, something a bit lighter...